Wednesday, February 22, 2012
Modesty and the BYU Honor Code
eh... this is the first i've heard about this story (yay for living back east again!). i'm amused by how much attention this is getting, and reminded of how small the world gets when you live in Provo and/or go to BYU...
go check out the story, watch the video.
and now go check out the Dress and Grooming Standards of the BYU Honor Code, if you're unfamiliar with it. (if you go to BYU, you likely have this memorized, in which case- just keep reading.)
some people are strongly defending that she's not wearing anything "immodest." I heard a rumor that she got hired by a clothing company that specializes in making modest clothing to be a model. just checked it, she's already got some modeled pics up on http://www.crisandkates.com/
some people are getting angry and saying things like, "you signed the Honor Code and if you're not going to live it, then go to a different school!" (the trump end to any conversation about the Honor Code among the BYU species...)
read all the comments on facebook if you want: http://sphotos.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ash4/427238_10150602641948676_36259238675_8900076_553404050_n.jpg
those are the really disturbing thing-- calling the guy who wrote the note a bully, telling the girl she's out of line and needs to repent, comparing the Honor Code to "forcing women to wear burkahs," ... just WOW!
and now my opinion:
looking at her, i don't think she's dressed immodestly or that her clothing encourages unwanted attention to her body, or that her clothes promote negative thoughts about her. but like it or not, BYU's honor code as it relates to appearance isn't always about the Spirit of the law when it gets broken down into the nitty-gritty rules(though if you follow it by the letter you can't go wrong, think of it as an "extra high standard").
so yeah, she did technically break the Honor Code. (and i'm not totally against the "no leggings" rule in the honor code, since there are many degrees of leggings depending on color, sheer-ness, and tight-ness [which is really more of an issue of body shape and size than how the item is made].... though the rule does make her outfit and i'm sure others' outfits "against the honor code", even though i think it's acceptable...but i digress...)
what that guy did wasn't really the worst he could do either. do i think her clothes are "immodest?" no. is it breaking the honor code?-yes. so the guy felt he should say something, and he gave her a note, which granted may or may not have been written in a "nicer" way, but i'd really prefer to have a person write me a note or address me privately instead of just turning me into the HC office. i had roommates who were anonymously turned into the HC office and never knew why because people would get offended about something trivial and just turn them in, instead of talking to them about it in person first. so, maybe the guy was a bit uptight about the honor code... but he handled it the best way he could and feel good about it.
do i think this woman needs to leave BYU because she's not obeying the honor code perfectly as it's written? uh, no. the favorite trump end to all honor code conversations ("you signed it, if you don't like it go somewhere else!") is stupid, kills potentially meaningful discussion, and makes the assumption that people who break the honor code aren't worthy of BYU (and by extension forgiveness or the Atonement).
The Atonement is awesome and available to everyone-- BYU student or not, Mormon of not. We're all learning to be our best. Students at BYU are not the "judges in Israel." I think a lot of people over at BYU need to get their heads screwed on right and realize there are more important things to worry about, like the reality of the Atonement, their own personal testimonies, and their own need for repentance instead of everyone else's testimonies and need for repentance.
(ok, i'm gonna stop now before i become too hypocritical and make this a bigger deal than it should be.)
Friday, January 27, 2012
Sibling Rivalry Starts Early
Munchkin and I were sitting on the couch, watching Sesame Street this morning when little Ruthe started kicking. A Lot.
Well, Naomi must have noticed because she turned around and said, "stop!"
I asked her "stop what?"
she answered, "no!" and poked my belly.
I just laughed, and was thinking 'silly munchkin!" When I noticed that Ruthe kicked again, Naomi turned and poked my belly and said, "no! no!"
My silly little girls-- fighting already and Ruthe hasn't even been born yet! This should be interesting in the coming months...
Well, Naomi must have noticed because she turned around and said, "stop!"
I asked her "stop what?"
she answered, "no!" and poked my belly.
I just laughed, and was thinking 'silly munchkin!" When I noticed that Ruthe kicked again, Naomi turned and poked my belly and said, "no! no!"
My silly little girls-- fighting already and Ruthe hasn't even been born yet! This should be interesting in the coming months...
Monday, January 23, 2012
What's in a Name?
I've been contemplating names lately. With good reason, since we just found out Baby #2 is a GIRL!!! Anyways, I wanted to just record my thoughts on how important a name is, and why we chose he names we have so far for our girls.
I think a person's name is more than just what they are called. It's part of who they are, and the inspiration for a name can be just as important as the name itself.
Our first daughter is Charlotte Naomi.
~Charlotte after my mom (Charlotte Lynn) and myself (Charlotte Marie). I think my grandma got the name Charlotte from a friend of hers... I'm not sure. Oh, and we also learned that Charlotte was Brad's grandma's middle name, so I guess it came from both sides of the family. :-)
-From BabyNames.com, Charlotte means: Free, also feminine form of Charles (which means: free man).
~Naomi was a name chosen by Brad. He told me long before we were even engaged that when he was somewhere around the age of 10 or something that he was reading the Bible, read the name Naomi, and decided then that it would be his first daughter's name. Luckily,I liked it as well. ;-)
-From BabyNames.com, Naomi means: gentle, beautiful (in hebrew), and (in Japanese) honest/correct/frank, and beauty.
Our newest little one (expected to arrive late May or early June) will be Ruthe Maedean.
~Ruthe after Brad's grandma (Ruthe Charlotte Neeley). Funny story-- we asked Brad's grandma where she got her name, and why it was spelled with an -e at the end, since the common spelling is Ruth. As I remember it, she snuck off to see a fortune teller when she was a little girl who told her that if she spelled her name with an -e on the end would have better fortune or luck in life, or something like that. And from then on, Grandma spelled her name Ruthe because she liked it. So, we're going to keep the good fortune coming and keep the spelling Ruthe.
-From BabyNames.com, Ruth(e) means: friendship (in Hebrew)
~Maedean after my great-grandma (Francis Maedean Harkins-- who went by Maedean or Mae). Today would be her 85th birthday. She passed away almost 8 years ago, and I love and miss her very much. I remember her as a strong and loving woman, and am so grateful that I had the opportunity to get to know her in this life. In fact, her last year in this life, I spent a large part of my summer with her and have very fond memories of that time.
-From BabyNames.com, Maedean means: uh, my great-grandma? this isn't listed on any baby names site that i can find anywhere... i even googled the name, and there's maybe 5 people with that name in the US, but think most of them are actually Mae Dean, two separate names. Lucky girl gets a pretty unique name! :-)
On another note, while we didn't plan this on purpose, our two daughters will be Naomi and Ruthe-- like in the Bible story that Brad read many years ago. I hope that my girls will have as close and good of a relationship as sisters as did Naomi and Ruth in the Bible. I also hope that both my girls will live up to their names-- they have some amazing examples of strong, faithful, smart, and beautiful women to look up to. Amazing women who sacrificed much for their families and were full of so much love. This is everything I hope for for my daughters.
I think a person's name is more than just what they are called. It's part of who they are, and the inspiration for a name can be just as important as the name itself.
Our first daughter is Charlotte Naomi.
~Charlotte after my mom (Charlotte Lynn) and myself (Charlotte Marie). I think my grandma got the name Charlotte from a friend of hers... I'm not sure. Oh, and we also learned that Charlotte was Brad's grandma's middle name, so I guess it came from both sides of the family. :-)
-From BabyNames.com, Charlotte means: Free, also feminine form of Charles (which means: free man).
~Naomi was a name chosen by Brad. He told me long before we were even engaged that when he was somewhere around the age of 10 or something that he was reading the Bible, read the name Naomi, and decided then that it would be his first daughter's name. Luckily,I liked it as well. ;-)
-From BabyNames.com, Naomi means: gentle, beautiful (in hebrew), and (in Japanese) honest/correct/frank, and beauty.
| Beautiful is definitely a word to describe this little one-- she is beautiful in character, spirit, and body. |
~Ruthe after Brad's grandma (Ruthe Charlotte Neeley). Funny story-- we asked Brad's grandma where she got her name, and why it was spelled with an -e at the end, since the common spelling is Ruth. As I remember it, she snuck off to see a fortune teller when she was a little girl who told her that if she spelled her name with an -e on the end would have better fortune or luck in life, or something like that. And from then on, Grandma spelled her name Ruthe because she liked it. So, we're going to keep the good fortune coming and keep the spelling Ruthe.
-From BabyNames.com, Ruth(e) means: friendship (in Hebrew)
~Maedean after my great-grandma (Francis Maedean Harkins-- who went by Maedean or Mae). Today would be her 85th birthday. She passed away almost 8 years ago, and I love and miss her very much. I remember her as a strong and loving woman, and am so grateful that I had the opportunity to get to know her in this life. In fact, her last year in this life, I spent a large part of my summer with her and have very fond memories of that time.
-From BabyNames.com, Maedean means: uh, my great-grandma? this isn't listed on any baby names site that i can find anywhere... i even googled the name, and there's maybe 5 people with that name in the US, but think most of them are actually Mae Dean, two separate names. Lucky girl gets a pretty unique name! :-)
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| Profile view of Ruthe Maedean at 22 weeks. |
On another note, while we didn't plan this on purpose, our two daughters will be Naomi and Ruthe-- like in the Bible story that Brad read many years ago. I hope that my girls will have as close and good of a relationship as sisters as did Naomi and Ruth in the Bible. I also hope that both my girls will live up to their names-- they have some amazing examples of strong, faithful, smart, and beautiful women to look up to. Amazing women who sacrificed much for their families and were full of so much love. This is everything I hope for for my daughters.
Thursday, January 19, 2012
Baby #2
Monday, January 2, 2012
A Neeley New Year
As we welcome a new year, we are grateful for the experiences of the past year that have helped us learn and grow closer to our Savior, Jesus Christ. We also have high expectations and goals for ourselves in the coming year!
Memorable Stuff from 2011
1. Munchkin's 1st birthday!
2. Brad's first full-time job!
3. Leaving Utah, moving East, and being closer to family!
Goals for 2012
1. Hold FHE each week. We really struggle with this one, especially with a toddler. But as a family with a young child-- FHE should be even more fun! A friend of mine put this list together with some awesome FHE ideas for toddlers and I'm excited to try some of them.
2. Practice the piano at least 15 minutes each day. I've always wanted to be able to play a musical instrument. Brad and his family have been very supporative and given me self-teaching books and practice pieces. One of my most treasured Christmas presents this year was the simplified versions of some church Hymns, from Brad. I'm excited to practice and have music in our home more. I know 15 minutes isn't much, but an hour each day isn't realistic with a demanding toddler, and it's still practice everyday.
3. Attend the temple at least 6 times this year (or every other month). Attending the temple has become so tough! It's almost 3 hours away, so we either need to go separately or find another family to go with us that we can swap babysitting with during sessions. Either way, it means double the time in Columbus for both of us to do at least 1 session. And that time adds up: 3 hours driving, 4-5 hours at the temple, and 3 hours driving back. I am so grateful that I had the opportunity to live within minutes of the temple while in Provo and to go more often. It helped me strengthen my testimony of Jesus Christ and the importance of temple service.
4. Develop healthier life-habits, like being more active each day (physically and mentally) and eating healthier foods. There's not an easy way to quantify this one and measure it, but to help us reach this goal, we are getting a family YMCA membership (and setting a goal for Brad and I to each use the membership at least 2 times per week) and trying to eat more fruits and vegetables throughout the day. And I've been exercising with a pre-natal workout dvd or playing Just Dance while the munchkin naps 5-6 times per week.
Happy New Year! And Best wishes on meeting your goals in 2012.
Memorable Stuff from 2011
1. Munchkin's 1st birthday!
2. Brad's first full-time job!
3. Leaving Utah, moving East, and being closer to family!
Goals for 2012
1. Hold FHE each week. We really struggle with this one, especially with a toddler. But as a family with a young child-- FHE should be even more fun! A friend of mine put this list together with some awesome FHE ideas for toddlers and I'm excited to try some of them.
2. Practice the piano at least 15 minutes each day. I've always wanted to be able to play a musical instrument. Brad and his family have been very supporative and given me self-teaching books and practice pieces. One of my most treasured Christmas presents this year was the simplified versions of some church Hymns, from Brad. I'm excited to practice and have music in our home more. I know 15 minutes isn't much, but an hour each day isn't realistic with a demanding toddler, and it's still practice everyday.
3. Attend the temple at least 6 times this year (or every other month). Attending the temple has become so tough! It's almost 3 hours away, so we either need to go separately or find another family to go with us that we can swap babysitting with during sessions. Either way, it means double the time in Columbus for both of us to do at least 1 session. And that time adds up: 3 hours driving, 4-5 hours at the temple, and 3 hours driving back. I am so grateful that I had the opportunity to live within minutes of the temple while in Provo and to go more often. It helped me strengthen my testimony of Jesus Christ and the importance of temple service.
4. Develop healthier life-habits, like being more active each day (physically and mentally) and eating healthier foods. There's not an easy way to quantify this one and measure it, but to help us reach this goal, we are getting a family YMCA membership (and setting a goal for Brad and I to each use the membership at least 2 times per week) and trying to eat more fruits and vegetables throughout the day. And I've been exercising with a pre-natal workout dvd or playing Just Dance while the munchkin naps 5-6 times per week.
Happy New Year! And Best wishes on meeting your goals in 2012.
Monday, December 19, 2011
Potty Training Adventures
yes. potty training.
because my 20 month old wants to.
that's right. be jealous, parents of toddlers everywhere!
I have the most awesome little girl ever. She amazes me everyday with her awesome-ness. Following are my Facebook status updates of the last 3 days chronicling the beginning of Munchkin's Potty Training Adventures. Because these are the fun things that should be in a journal of some kind, and not get lost in the black hole of Facebook status updates.
Friday at 12:53pm
munchkin today went to the bathroom and kept saying "poop, poop", then crawled into the tub fully clothed and pooped in her diaper. anyone else think it's time for potty training???
Saturday at 8:55pm
we got a potty chair last night for the munchkin. and every few hours, we ask naomi is she needs a diaper change or if she would like to use her potty-- she chooses the potty every time, but hasn't actually gone potty in the potty yet... at least she's excited to learn!
Saturday at 10:07pm
potty training update: naomi came to us and said "poop. poop" so we asked if she needed a change or wanted to use the potty. she choose the potty-- then went pee and asked to take a bath. so i put her in the tub where she proceeds to squat and start pooping, so i pulled her out and sat her on her chair. and she pooped in the potty chair. Munchkin potty training WIN!
Sunday at 9:58pm
munchkin successfully used the potty about 50% of the time today. She missed the potty while we were at church and during her nap, otherwise-- she's been perfect! Love that little girl so much!
Monday at 10:52am
side effect of potty training: munchkin has learned how to take off her diaper and thinks she can just run around the house naked all the time... oh boy! luckily, she usually goes to the potty immediately after getting naked, so i haven't found any surprises around the house... yet. *keeping my fingers crossed*
and here are some more cute munchkin antics that haven't made Facebook
monday, dec 19: after going potty, naomi stood up and said hppily, "i went potty!" and then did a little dance. too cute; i only wish i'd had the camera.
naomi is afraid she is going to fall in the big potty, so she'll only go on her little potty chair.
naomi gets a few mini-marshmellows for going pee-pee in the potty, and an oreo for going poop in the potty. once, she saw the marshmellows sitting on the counter (after i'd made hot cocoa) and asked for one. i told her she had to go potty for it, so she went to the bathroom and went potty right there. she's so smart!
because my 20 month old wants to.
that's right. be jealous, parents of toddlers everywhere!
I have the most awesome little girl ever. She amazes me everyday with her awesome-ness. Following are my Facebook status updates of the last 3 days chronicling the beginning of Munchkin's Potty Training Adventures. Because these are the fun things that should be in a journal of some kind, and not get lost in the black hole of Facebook status updates.
Friday at 12:53pm
munchkin today went to the bathroom and kept saying "poop, poop", then crawled into the tub fully clothed and pooped in her diaper. anyone else think it's time for potty training???
Saturday at 8:55pm
we got a potty chair last night for the munchkin. and every few hours, we ask naomi is she needs a diaper change or if she would like to use her potty-- she chooses the potty every time, but hasn't actually gone potty in the potty yet... at least she's excited to learn!
Saturday at 10:07pm
potty training update: naomi came to us and said "poop. poop" so we asked if she needed a change or wanted to use the potty. she choose the potty-- then went pee and asked to take a bath. so i put her in the tub where she proceeds to squat and start pooping, so i pulled her out and sat her on her chair. and she pooped in the potty chair. Munchkin potty training WIN!
Sunday at 9:58pm
munchkin successfully used the potty about 50% of the time today. She missed the potty while we were at church and during her nap, otherwise-- she's been perfect! Love that little girl so much!
Monday at 10:52am
side effect of potty training: munchkin has learned how to take off her diaper and thinks she can just run around the house naked all the time... oh boy! luckily, she usually goes to the potty immediately after getting naked, so i haven't found any surprises around the house... yet. *keeping my fingers crossed*
and here are some more cute munchkin antics that haven't made Facebook
monday, dec 19: after going potty, naomi stood up and said hppily, "i went potty!" and then did a little dance. too cute; i only wish i'd had the camera.
naomi is afraid she is going to fall in the big potty, so she'll only go on her little potty chair.
naomi gets a few mini-marshmellows for going pee-pee in the potty, and an oreo for going poop in the potty. once, she saw the marshmellows sitting on the counter (after i'd made hot cocoa) and asked for one. i told her she had to go potty for it, so she went to the bathroom and went potty right there. she's so smart!
Friday, December 16, 2011
Merry Christmas!
I saw this painting for the first time today...
And I have fallen in love with it! Someday, I want to be able to hang this beautiful painting in my home every Christmas.
May we all remember to give thanks for the greatest blessing we have all received-- Christ the Lord coming to earth to atone for man. If you'd like to learn more about my faith in Jesus Christ, please feel free to visit http://mormon.org/jesus-christ/
And I have fallen in love with it! Someday, I want to be able to hang this beautiful painting in my home every Christmas.
May we all remember to give thanks for the greatest blessing we have all received-- Christ the Lord coming to earth to atone for man. If you'd like to learn more about my faith in Jesus Christ, please feel free to visit http://mormon.org/jesus-christ/
Merry Christmas!
Monday, December 12, 2011
Melting Chocolate
After 2 hours of fighting to melt chocolate and butterscotch chips in a double boiler--
After 5 minutes of melting chocolate and butterscotch chips in the microwave...
How to WIN
Heat on 50% power at 30 second intervals, stirring after each heating interval, until melted.
It may appear a bit "lumpy," and not completely melted, just stir for awhile and those little bits will melt, too.
| FAIL |
After 5 minutes of melting chocolate and butterscotch chips in the microwave...
| WIN |
Heat on 50% power at 30 second intervals, stirring after each heating interval, until melted.
It may appear a bit "lumpy," and not completely melted, just stir for awhile and those little bits will melt, too.
Mommy's Little Helper
Naomi is getting to be such a big girl! and so helpful! I just wanted to make a short list of the awesome things my daughter does to help mommy around the house. I've learned that if i want to be happy, spend quality time with my munchkin, and still have a clean house-- I need to include her in cleaning. She thinks it's fun, I get stuff done, and she's learning to be clean. Win.Win.Win.
Awesome Stuff That Naomi Does To Help Mommy
1. throws away her own dirty diapers-- seriously, when i'm done she will get up, grab her diaper, and go throw it away. Awesome, munchkin!
2. laundry-- she will seperate whites from colors and put them in the basket that i tell her too. and she's been doing this since she was 9 months!!! and if i sit her on top of our dryer, she'll help me load the washer (her favorite!), and then push the start button on the washer. she also puts the dryer sheet in the dryer and takes the clothes out of the dryer when they are done. seriously, this kid will be a laundry pro before her 2nd birthday!
3. putting away clean dishes-- after i dry the dishes, she will put them in the proper cabinet (if it's a lower cabinet, which is where we keep our plastic bowls, tupperware-type stuff, and pots and pans). she even knows where they go (i don't have to tell her), but that's probably because she spends much of her day taking the dishes in and out of the cabinets and playing with them. :-)
4. washing dishes/sink-- if i only have 1 or two big bowls or pots to wash, and they aren't too bad, i'll let munchkin sit on the counter by the sink and she likes to help "wash the bowl" by running the rag or a scrubbing wand around the bowl and playing in the water. when i empty the sink, she likes to "clean the sink." here's her doing just that:
5. she's also already learned to use only 1-2 toys at a time or 1 book at a time. when she's done with a book or toy, she puts it back on the shelf or toy box.
Could I have a more perfect child?! i'm going to find out in a few months! I love you, Munchkin!
Awesome Stuff That Naomi Does To Help Mommy
1. throws away her own dirty diapers-- seriously, when i'm done she will get up, grab her diaper, and go throw it away. Awesome, munchkin!
2. laundry-- she will seperate whites from colors and put them in the basket that i tell her too. and she's been doing this since she was 9 months!!! and if i sit her on top of our dryer, she'll help me load the washer (her favorite!), and then push the start button on the washer. she also puts the dryer sheet in the dryer and takes the clothes out of the dryer when they are done. seriously, this kid will be a laundry pro before her 2nd birthday!
| helping with laundry at 9 months old! |
3. putting away clean dishes-- after i dry the dishes, she will put them in the proper cabinet (if it's a lower cabinet, which is where we keep our plastic bowls, tupperware-type stuff, and pots and pans). she even knows where they go (i don't have to tell her), but that's probably because she spends much of her day taking the dishes in and out of the cabinets and playing with them. :-)
4. washing dishes/sink-- if i only have 1 or two big bowls or pots to wash, and they aren't too bad, i'll let munchkin sit on the counter by the sink and she likes to help "wash the bowl" by running the rag or a scrubbing wand around the bowl and playing in the water. when i empty the sink, she likes to "clean the sink." here's her doing just that:
Could I have a more perfect child?! i'm going to find out in a few months! I love you, Munchkin!
Monday, December 5, 2011
Occupy My Thoughts, part 2
I know I've already made one post about my thoughts on teh Occupy Movement... but after I posted it, I didn't feel like I was able to say everything I wanted to. So here are some more ramblings, without, I'm sure, a clear conclusion. WARNING: it's pretty long...
My thoughts on the Occupy movement are pretty scattered, much like the movement seems to be. I don't know everything about it, and I'm not sure anyone does or can. But that doesn't stop everyone, myself included, from having seemingly very strong opinions about it. (Except for maybe Brad, he seems pretty immune to getting too worked up about it, and graciously listens to me blabber on about it all the time in an effort to try and sort my thoughts out loud and make sense of all my jumbled musings. Thanks,babe. You're incredible!)
I've heard many comments thrown about like,
-"Those occupiers just need to go get a job and quit whining!"
-"Maybe if they would get a job instead of standing in the street, they wouldn't be part of the 99%"
-"I got a college degree, worked during college, graduated without debt, and have a job. I'm not part of the 99% because I work hard."
-"I can't believe I'm paying taxes to support those lazy people."
And my honest, knee-jerk reaction is to think, "people who say those things are ignorant and they need to go live in poverty for a couple months." And then I stop myself, because if I believe that, then I would be making the same broad generalizations about them that caused my knee-jerk judgement of those commentators. Ironic, huh? I need to repent.
I'm trying to sort out why I have that knee-jerk reaction to those comments. Some of my attempts at an explination are:
-I know good people that do have jobs and work hard everyday, and do support ideals from the movement. Smart people, well-educated, people with jobs. People I look up to. So obviously those comments are off base, because I know that the occupiers are not a bunch of whiny unemployed people.
-My understanding of the 99% is not that "99% of America is lazy and whiny and wants a free handout." In fact, the people who go out to the protests have got to be something other than "lazy" when they spend their days camping, marching around, holding up signs, and sometimes risking arest for something they strongly believe in. ("Lazy" is what I am right now, just sitting at my computer and making comments about the Occupy Movement without actually doing anything productive about my opinion.) The 99% came from the understanding that 1% of our nation's population owns something like 40% of the nation's wealth... I could look up the exact info, but I'm being lazy right now. :-) ok, so I decided to be slightly less lazy and look up some sites, most cite (2003-2007) that the top 1% of the nation holds anywhere from 34.8%-42.1% of our nation's wealth. Just google "1% owns how much wealth").
-I got a college degree, worked while in school, and graduated without debt. I work hard. If I was to leave that statement as it was, it would be a half-truth, and thus a lie. I was also very blessed. I received Pell Grants to help pay my tuition and books and other school supplies-- in other words, money from hard working taxpayers. I went to a school where 70% of my tuition was subsidized by faithful members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints who paid their tithing (10% of their income donated to the LDS church). I received half-tuition need-based scholarships from my University to help me pay for books, materials, and my laptop. And I had a part-time student job as a custodian. I worked hard, yes, but all my hard work wouldn't have meant anything had it not been for those HUGE financial blessings.
-Taxes do more than welfare. And sometimes, welfare programs if used with discretion can be a huge blessing to people that are working hard. Your taxes supported my family, and we tried to use it wisely and are grateful for that program during the time that we needed it. I know my family can't be the only ones who tried to be wise with our blessing of state assistance. Not everyone that receives it lives on it and is a bunch of lazy bums. Not everyone that needs a hand-up is looking for a handout.
I know wonderful people on both sides of the spectrum, and I hear news about all the corruption on both sides.
Example 1. My Papa has worked hard every day of his life as best I know. He served in the US Navy when he was younger. He taught my family the meaning of hard-work and loving your family first from the day he stepped into our family. He has sacrificed his health and body to work some of the demanding jobs he has held, and still struggles to feed his family and lives with my aunt and her sons, instead of his own home with my grandma. But he has far too much pride to ever ask for any help, and so I see him physically weaker every time I see him. It makes my heart cry from the injustice of it-- a man works works his body until it seems almost broken and still struggles to make ends meet. In a perfect Zion world, a man and family that works that hard would at least be guaranteed to have their basic needs met.
Example 2. I have an aunt who, when she was a teenager, seemed like she had made choices that today might be a life's sentence to poverty. She had 2 children as a teenager. But she was blessed with a family that supported her, helped her get through high school. Years later, she would graduate with a Bachelors of Science for a local college. She'd get a job, and later be able to go and get her MBA at another local University. She's now a successful financial person at her company. She's not a greedy person-- in fact, she's quite the opposite. She has opened her home to my grandparents. She often helps out struggling family members, she buys the family's food. She's generous and kind, And she's even told me that, GASP!, she wouldn't mind paying MORE in taxes if it meant that it helped pay off the nation's debt and help those who are struggling.
Example 3. Medicaid paid for my first pregnancy and birth since Brad and I were still in school-- working hard but making hardly any money. We didn't choose to apply for food stamps until there was a day when i called my parents, who have things tough financially themselves, if they could just put $5 on a shared wal-mart gift card so we could go buy some food that week. My mom convinced me that I had to put my pride aside and do what my family needed at the time, and that was food stamps. Brad was working as much as he could as a student, and I stayed home out of necessity since any job I could get would only pay for quality babysitting for Naomi and not make us any better off than if I was at home, able to raise my daughter myself. While receiving food stamps, I tried to buy healthy meals for my family, and invite friends over for meals to share the blessing. Now that Brad has a good job, we don't continue getting food stamps and are happy to share our substance and abundance with others when we have it.
Example 4. I also know a person who for some unknown reason to me, has absolutely no apparent will to do anything productive in society. Who sits at home watching tv and sleeping, making no effort to even get a job. Hell, this person even somehow can miraculously get other people to fill out his/her paperwork to get welfare. And it's mind-boggling. I don't know many people like this, just one, so I know that they exist, but it's not what everyone that gets welfare looks like. And this person isn't out at the Occupy protests; this person is still at home sleeping or watching youtube, and likely doesn't even know about the Occupy Movement or what it stands for.
Example 5. Huge companies are getting government bailouts and the execs are getting ridiculous end-of-year bonuses. I'm not against an end-of-year bonus, but companies that need to be bailed out shouldn't be rewarding their top execs that put them in those positions. (google: Fannie Mae and Freddie Mac bailouts)
Example 6. congress members appear to be in the money-holders' pockets. through campaign contributions, lobbying, and out-right bribes, wealthy corporations and individuals can control someone who should be a "representative of the people." but when they answer to who's paying them, it's not most of the country, unfortunately. and even worse, when a tough challenge is placed before them, they will choose to just not do anything and wait until they are re-elected instead of doing their jobs (google: super committee failure).
See! It's freaking complicated! there are so many different situations, so many good and honest and hard working people that get screwed. there are corrupt people in positions of power. and there are people like me, who are very blessed to live the average life. i don't know why i was so much more blessed to get out of the cycle of poverty when so many i love are still trapped in it. i'm not anymore special than they are. some of them work harder in a day than i have or ever will work in my life (except maybe when i'm giving birth-- i'll give myself some serious credit for that one!), but we still have food and now we have health insurance. i don't know why people who work every day until their bones are weak have to still stay up at night wondering how to feed their family. and i don't know why there are people who can get away with treating their employees that way.
i don't know why our government system has become so corrupt, and the money changers on wall street seem just as corrupt, and they seem corrupt together. but as a good American citizen, I (and all other American citizens, including the occupiers and non-occupiers) have the right and RESPONSIBILITY to contribute to the well-being of said society. a few hundred years ago, there were some crazy people with radical ideas that believed their government had become corrupt, and charged too much in taxes, and they weren't going to just keep working with their heads down and deal with the injustice. these people helped form our nation. it's a part of our heritage, and so i have to respect and pay attention to the Occupy Movement. I may not agree with everything they say (because, let's face it, those in the movement have contradicted themselves a few times and are still trying to figure out what they are fighting for), but it deserves my attention. it deserves my constant self-reflection and participation in my community and in the democratic process.
more ramblings to come, i'm sure... this just got too long to keep going. here's a reward for sticing to the end:
i love this little girl!
My thoughts on the Occupy movement are pretty scattered, much like the movement seems to be. I don't know everything about it, and I'm not sure anyone does or can. But that doesn't stop everyone, myself included, from having seemingly very strong opinions about it. (Except for maybe Brad, he seems pretty immune to getting too worked up about it, and graciously listens to me blabber on about it all the time in an effort to try and sort my thoughts out loud and make sense of all my jumbled musings. Thanks,babe. You're incredible!)
I've heard many comments thrown about like,
-"Those occupiers just need to go get a job and quit whining!"
-"Maybe if they would get a job instead of standing in the street, they wouldn't be part of the 99%"
-"I got a college degree, worked during college, graduated without debt, and have a job. I'm not part of the 99% because I work hard."
-"I can't believe I'm paying taxes to support those lazy people."
And my honest, knee-jerk reaction is to think, "people who say those things are ignorant and they need to go live in poverty for a couple months." And then I stop myself, because if I believe that, then I would be making the same broad generalizations about them that caused my knee-jerk judgement of those commentators. Ironic, huh? I need to repent.
I'm trying to sort out why I have that knee-jerk reaction to those comments. Some of my attempts at an explination are:
-I know good people that do have jobs and work hard everyday, and do support ideals from the movement. Smart people, well-educated, people with jobs. People I look up to. So obviously those comments are off base, because I know that the occupiers are not a bunch of whiny unemployed people.
-My understanding of the 99% is not that "99% of America is lazy and whiny and wants a free handout." In fact, the people who go out to the protests have got to be something other than "lazy" when they spend their days camping, marching around, holding up signs, and sometimes risking arest for something they strongly believe in. ("Lazy" is what I am right now, just sitting at my computer and making comments about the Occupy Movement without actually doing anything productive about my opinion.) The 99% came from the understanding that 1% of our nation's population owns something like 40% of the nation's wealth... I could look up the exact info, but I'm being lazy right now. :-) ok, so I decided to be slightly less lazy and look up some sites, most cite (2003-2007) that the top 1% of the nation holds anywhere from 34.8%-42.1% of our nation's wealth. Just google "1% owns how much wealth").
-I got a college degree, worked while in school, and graduated without debt. I work hard. If I was to leave that statement as it was, it would be a half-truth, and thus a lie. I was also very blessed. I received Pell Grants to help pay my tuition and books and other school supplies-- in other words, money from hard working taxpayers. I went to a school where 70% of my tuition was subsidized by faithful members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints who paid their tithing (10% of their income donated to the LDS church). I received half-tuition need-based scholarships from my University to help me pay for books, materials, and my laptop. And I had a part-time student job as a custodian. I worked hard, yes, but all my hard work wouldn't have meant anything had it not been for those HUGE financial blessings.
-Taxes do more than welfare. And sometimes, welfare programs if used with discretion can be a huge blessing to people that are working hard. Your taxes supported my family, and we tried to use it wisely and are grateful for that program during the time that we needed it. I know my family can't be the only ones who tried to be wise with our blessing of state assistance. Not everyone that receives it lives on it and is a bunch of lazy bums. Not everyone that needs a hand-up is looking for a handout.
I know wonderful people on both sides of the spectrum, and I hear news about all the corruption on both sides.
Example 1. My Papa has worked hard every day of his life as best I know. He served in the US Navy when he was younger. He taught my family the meaning of hard-work and loving your family first from the day he stepped into our family. He has sacrificed his health and body to work some of the demanding jobs he has held, and still struggles to feed his family and lives with my aunt and her sons, instead of his own home with my grandma. But he has far too much pride to ever ask for any help, and so I see him physically weaker every time I see him. It makes my heart cry from the injustice of it-- a man works works his body until it seems almost broken and still struggles to make ends meet. In a perfect Zion world, a man and family that works that hard would at least be guaranteed to have their basic needs met.
Example 2. I have an aunt who, when she was a teenager, seemed like she had made choices that today might be a life's sentence to poverty. She had 2 children as a teenager. But she was blessed with a family that supported her, helped her get through high school. Years later, she would graduate with a Bachelors of Science for a local college. She'd get a job, and later be able to go and get her MBA at another local University. She's now a successful financial person at her company. She's not a greedy person-- in fact, she's quite the opposite. She has opened her home to my grandparents. She often helps out struggling family members, she buys the family's food. She's generous and kind, And she's even told me that, GASP!, she wouldn't mind paying MORE in taxes if it meant that it helped pay off the nation's debt and help those who are struggling.
Example 3. Medicaid paid for my first pregnancy and birth since Brad and I were still in school-- working hard but making hardly any money. We didn't choose to apply for food stamps until there was a day when i called my parents, who have things tough financially themselves, if they could just put $5 on a shared wal-mart gift card so we could go buy some food that week. My mom convinced me that I had to put my pride aside and do what my family needed at the time, and that was food stamps. Brad was working as much as he could as a student, and I stayed home out of necessity since any job I could get would only pay for quality babysitting for Naomi and not make us any better off than if I was at home, able to raise my daughter myself. While receiving food stamps, I tried to buy healthy meals for my family, and invite friends over for meals to share the blessing. Now that Brad has a good job, we don't continue getting food stamps and are happy to share our substance and abundance with others when we have it.
Example 4. I also know a person who for some unknown reason to me, has absolutely no apparent will to do anything productive in society. Who sits at home watching tv and sleeping, making no effort to even get a job. Hell, this person even somehow can miraculously get other people to fill out his/her paperwork to get welfare. And it's mind-boggling. I don't know many people like this, just one, so I know that they exist, but it's not what everyone that gets welfare looks like. And this person isn't out at the Occupy protests; this person is still at home sleeping or watching youtube, and likely doesn't even know about the Occupy Movement or what it stands for.
Example 5. Huge companies are getting government bailouts and the execs are getting ridiculous end-of-year bonuses. I'm not against an end-of-year bonus, but companies that need to be bailed out shouldn't be rewarding their top execs that put them in those positions. (google: Fannie Mae and Freddie Mac bailouts)
Example 6. congress members appear to be in the money-holders' pockets. through campaign contributions, lobbying, and out-right bribes, wealthy corporations and individuals can control someone who should be a "representative of the people." but when they answer to who's paying them, it's not most of the country, unfortunately. and even worse, when a tough challenge is placed before them, they will choose to just not do anything and wait until they are re-elected instead of doing their jobs (google: super committee failure).
See! It's freaking complicated! there are so many different situations, so many good and honest and hard working people that get screwed. there are corrupt people in positions of power. and there are people like me, who are very blessed to live the average life. i don't know why i was so much more blessed to get out of the cycle of poverty when so many i love are still trapped in it. i'm not anymore special than they are. some of them work harder in a day than i have or ever will work in my life (except maybe when i'm giving birth-- i'll give myself some serious credit for that one!), but we still have food and now we have health insurance. i don't know why people who work every day until their bones are weak have to still stay up at night wondering how to feed their family. and i don't know why there are people who can get away with treating their employees that way.
i don't know why our government system has become so corrupt, and the money changers on wall street seem just as corrupt, and they seem corrupt together. but as a good American citizen, I (and all other American citizens, including the occupiers and non-occupiers) have the right and RESPONSIBILITY to contribute to the well-being of said society. a few hundred years ago, there were some crazy people with radical ideas that believed their government had become corrupt, and charged too much in taxes, and they weren't going to just keep working with their heads down and deal with the injustice. these people helped form our nation. it's a part of our heritage, and so i have to respect and pay attention to the Occupy Movement. I may not agree with everything they say (because, let's face it, those in the movement have contradicted themselves a few times and are still trying to figure out what they are fighting for), but it deserves my attention. it deserves my constant self-reflection and participation in my community and in the democratic process.
more ramblings to come, i'm sure... this just got too long to keep going. here's a reward for sticing to the end:
i love this little girl!
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