Wednesday, December 18, 2013

Christmas Letter 2013

Dear family and friends,

We pray this Christmas season finds you joyful and well.  It has been a blessed year for our family! 

Brad still works for In The Round as a web programmer.  His company was bought out, downsized, and still going through some restructuring currently; through it all he has kept his position and enjoys what he does.  His job continues to be a great blessing to our family. He went on his first official business trip in early December as part of the changes happening at work. He was released as the Young Men’s President at church after serving for 2 years, and is excited to be a Family History Technology Consultant.  In his spare time, he enjoys hanging with the guys, catching a movie, and playing racquetball or basketball. In June, Brad embarked on writing his first piano piece—a medley of Away in a Manger and Hark! The Herald Angels Sing, which he performed at church in December. His next goal is to write an entirely original piece.  He’s learning how to be a “handy-man” in various household emergencies like unclogging the flooding garbage disposal.
From our 5 year Anniversary trip to D.C. in May 2013


Marie just keeps getting busier!  She started homeschooling Naomi this year for her first year of Preschool as a “test drive year.”  So far, there are some issues to work through but it seems to be successful and home preschool year 2 is in the works. Marie was pleasantly surprised on Mother’s Day to find out she is will a mother to a 3rd little one who is due … well, pretty much any time now.  Baby boy Samson Alexander Neeley is officially due January 9, 2014, though his family is very much praying for a late-December arrival. In October, Marie also started working part time as a babysitter at the local YMCA two nights per week.  She enjoys working with kids and being able to take her kids to work and earn a small bit of money. At church, Marie was released as the Primary teacher for the 8-9 year olds and called as the Assistant Primary Music Leader—one month before the annual Primary program because the Music Leader was due to have a baby that week.  Despite her feelings of inadequacy to the calling, she has felt the Lord inspire her and strengthen her to fulfill this special calling to teach music to the children at church.

Naomi is becoming a big girl.  She started her first year of home preschool, took her first swimming lessons, and participated in a daddy-daughter soccer class at the YMCA.  She really enjoys “doing school.” Her favorite subject for school seems to be science/biology.  She is interested in all things related to the human body—especially the immune, circulatory, and skeletal systems.  She has been asking mommy for a microscope so she can look at her red blood cells. She also really likes ocean creatures like echinoderms (commonly known as starfish to most people), octopus, fish, and seahorses.  She knows all the letters of the alphabet and most of their respective sounds and recently asked to learn to read—an adventure we’re diving headfirst into for school after the holidays are over.  She is a great big sister and very excited to have a little brother.


Ruthe has grown so much this year, though she is still quite little.  Early in the year her doctors expressed concern about her height, but it seems all for naught because she has gone through multiple growth spurts lately and is growing and eating a ton with her slowly acquired 8 little teeth.  She took her first steps this summer while at the Neeley family reunion in Bozeman, Montana.  Her vocabulary is rapidly expanding, and she’s even learning her manners! When she really wants something she puts her hands together, palms up and says, “’Eese!” with a big cheesey grin.  She loves reading with mommy; her favorite books include, “A Plump and Perky Turkey” and “Brown Bear, Brown Bear, What Do You See?”  She’s not sure about this “brother” everyone keeps talking about, but she LOVES to shake mommy’s tummy and watch/feel it move in response.  She loves playing basketball and hockey.



We love you all and wish you a very Merry Christmas and Happy New Year! –The Neeleys

Friday, December 6, 2013

Ugly Days of Motherhood

I love my kids.  With all my heart. Always.

But some days I don't like being a mom very much... Raising a 3 year old and 18 months old while 8+ months pregnant is ... ?... exhausting just isn't a strong enough word to convey how tired I feel emotionally and physically.

Today is testing my limits. It's an ugly mom day. As I type this, I hear my daughters upstairs pulling the dresser drawers out and throwing their clothes all over their bedroom, crying and occasionally banging on the door.  But I'm not going to go upstairs and stop them right now because I've had enough moments of walking into a destroyed room today. Today... the day before our housewarming party.

I just wanted to clean and decorate for Christmas so our home felt warm and festive for our friends and guests tomorrow, and because I just love a warm and festive home for Christmas.  Today the universe, or maybe just my children, have decided to make that goal as impossible as they can.

Ruthe woke up with a leaking diaper. No big deal.  New diaper, wipe the baby, throw pajamas in the wash, put on clothes for the day.
Have breakfast-- we go with yogurt, and I tell the kids to finish up while I go try and trade out dishes from the dishwasher and clean last nights pots and pans that I left soaking.  Naomi cleans up fine, Ruthe washes the table and her hair with yogurt, and gets it all over her clothes. Again.  Ugh... change Ruthe's clothes again, wipe her down again. Go to school room, read a couple stories, tell kids to play puzzles and "read" while I clean the kitchen.

While cleaning kitchen, hear lots of thuds and falling, followed by crying.  All the books are on the floor. No one hurt, just startled. Every puzzle piece is mixed together in a giant pile in the middle of the room, our puzzles plus the library puzzles we have checked out. Along with some other library toys.  (I have paid too much in fines for losing library toy parts due "incidents" just like this that I don't take care of right away, so I MUST clean this up ASAP and count every piece of every puzzle and toy.) I ask the kids to help, but they keep taking apart the puzzles I'm checking the pieces for, so I send them to their room.

They don't go to their room.  They go to the kitchen because, apparently, they want more yogurt.  Refrigerator and floor of kitchen get "mopped" with yogurt, and kids recycle the yogurt as shampoo.  Yell.

Take kids to bathroom and tell them to get undressed while I wipe up the excess yogurt.  Just damage control; I will have to mop and wipe clean later, but for now I don't want massive dried yogurt all over the place.  Return to bathroom for mid-day bathtime, and half the toilet paper is shredded and sticking to my yogurt covered Ruthe.

Baths.
Lock clean, dried, clothed children in bedroom and tell them it's nap time.

Go downstairs and cry.
Write therapeutic blog entry about ugly mom day.
Re-read said blog post.
Laugh.
Regret not taking a picture.
Publish blog post.

To Do Next
Pray.
Go apologize to screaming children banging on their bedroom door for locking them in their room, and help them clean their room. Give hugs and kisses and remember that I really do love them.

A mother's work is messy and never ends.